story-telling

Four Birth Stories and a Voice for Every Mother Counts

I’ve had four opportunities to test my body’s limits and be the co-creator of new life. Four chances to bring a child into the world, four first breaths, four beginnings. With each birth, I learned more about what I was capable of, and with each birth, I found power, courage and voice. My eldest child, […]

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5 Reasons I Love My Husband, Even in the Moments When I Forget

It is a truth universally acknowledged* that marriage isn’t easy. I’ve never met a perfect person, and therefore I’ve never encountered a perfect union (neither human nor country). I could storm and rage and tell stories and give you a litany of imperfections in my own marriage. Beloved and I, we’re flawed and human. We […]

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How Protest Songs Have Moved Us to Agitate for Change in the World

The world of film and music has always been a part of the fabric of social change. It has the power to move us, challenge us and change us. In the 1960s and 1970s, a South African man, Steve Biko, was a vocal advocate of non-violent protest as a means to ending racial division in […]

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How to Make Your Family More Resilient

In the 48 hours from our pre-wedding dinner with our families to arrival at the honeymoon destination, a series of unfortunate events that in my twenties I would have considered unmitigated disasters, were in my thirties great fodder for future family story-telling. As we went through the list with our kids over a wedding anniversary […]

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Yes Virginia, There Is A Santa Claus

We went to see the kindest, most gentle Santa I’ve ever met yesterday. He looked entirely the part. Every detail of his suit as it should be. A real bushy white beard and bright ruddy complexion. But he also felt the part. His spirit emanated love and all that Father Christmas in his purest form […]

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Tweens Praying Over the Spaghetti

I’m in the land of tweens and I have no idea what I’m doing. Mean girls are everywhere. There’s lots of signs I’m doing this all wrong (me, not her). But every now and then there is a moment, and it changes everything. You can mentally allow yourself to fast forward to a future global […]

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Big Important Things I Am Grateful For, Including You

Possibly my very favorite thing about living in America is Thanksgiving. I may never understand sweet potatoes topped with marshmallows, but that aside, it’s a wonderful day. Now I know the politics of pilgrims and Native Americans aren’t straight forward and that part of what this day represents is anchored in history we don’t like […]

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Of Miracles and Details

I am seeking a long list of miracles. My prayers are filled with pleas for friends and family members with severely ill children, marriages I deeply care about unraveling, rebellious kids making life-damaging decisions, parents aching with worry and grief, loved ones dealing with addiction, lost jobs and struggling businesses, mental illness and an abundance […]

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When Mama Breaks the Rules

I come from a culture where motherhood is revered, and where the narrative of sacrifice, patience and perfection in one’s mothering is both inspirational and overwhelming. On days like Mother’s Day, the weight of all that mothers are supposed to be can feel like a blessing and a burden. The talks and sermons at church […]

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When Dreams Become Reality

I had a dream a few years back. A dream of connecting with others around the world, a dream of writing and engaging in rich dialogue that led to action and change. I wrote an essay about that dream for Whitney Johnson, then an acquaintance, now a friend. Today a few of my words are […]

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