It feels like “revolving parent” around here. We are in a state of one of us packing, unpacking, saying goodbye or embracing hello. Gratefully there has been nothing that called us both on the road at the same time – at least nothing we couldn’t say no to. And for my extra long road trip coming up in a couple of weeks to Australia (mostly work, a spot of family visiting tagged on to the end), we have amazing family support. My beloved mother-in-law is coming to town. God bless her. Literally.
But I’ve got to tell you, it’s exhausting keeping it all together for our four kids, businesses, church service, community involvement (insert your own here). There have been some dropped balls and a few arguments fueled by exhaustion and frustration.
If all this didn’t line up with what’s important to us, it would feel like rats running on the proverbial treadmill. Anchoring our activity, our busy-ness, our doing – with our values – is the only thing that makes our current insanity workable. That and some pretty fabulous additions to our support systems.
My husband and I are in in the middle of that mass of modern families, figuring out new models for parenting, working and living. Of course, it’s all life. Messy, wonderful, unbelievably frustrating, rewarding. It’s only by reminding ourselves this is what we choose, this is what we want, and that this is part of fulfilling our core responsibilities and stewardships – that we make sense of it all. That personal call to accountability gets us back on track, in focus and trying to live each day with purpose behind it. Doesn’t always work, I’m not gonna lie. But it certainly is better than living the alternative.
The “what’s the big picture?” reframe is my number-one go to solution when it all feels out of control. If an activity doesn’t fit within that large framework, I have to find a way to let it go.
What keeps you on track when it feels like your life is being derailed?
One of those activities that fits exactly in the middle of my big picture is running a half-marathon for Every Mother Counts in a few days. You can learn why I am running here. You can donate to my cause here.
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