When Big Girls Have Slumber Parties

by Chrysula on July 19, 2012 in empowering women and girls,women,work life balance

Carissa Rogers, Chrysula Winegar, Evo Conference

Women sitting around a resort in the mountains bonding over blogs, twitter and motherhood at a social media conference can beg the question – is real business being done?

Like any self-respecting corporate golf tournament, dollars and cents conversations are happening, deals are being struck and deep networking happening. It looks prettier and there’s way more hugging (and yes, crying!). But this is the real thing and women in social media are changing the face of media and marketing.

This year I’ve had the privilege of speaking at Alt Summit, Type A Parent Conference and now just back from Evo, as well as attending Blissdom and about to attend BlogHer. I’ve met the most incredible women at each, expanding my community and my love for it. I thrill to see women carving out their own corner of the internet, forming new businesses and fundamentally restructuring the work and family paradigm.

Shot@Life's Devi Thomas, CW, Jeannette Kaplun Credit: Kim Orlandini Photography

The furor over the recent Anne-Marie Slaughter piece in the Atlantic “Why Women Still Can’t Have it All” evoked so many of the obstacles to women in the world’s very top jobs. It also, very rightly, brought us to the conclusion that men can’t have it all either and fundamental structural shifts in the way work happens are needed. The women I see building empires anchored in personal brands, both on and off-line, are marching to a very different drum. Their own.

It’s a drum that makes room for my family and acknowledges my deep desire to nurture whilst still being a co-provider. My work requires more travel than is always convenient. It’s complicated to leave my husband and four children. Whilst my Beloved is more than capable and I do not worry about one thing whilst I’m gone, I know there are systems he will have altered, things that I will want to adjust when I return. The children will act out for a few days and be more high needs than usual. These are prices that are not paid in the same way when my husband goes away on business. I can rail about its unfairness — it is what it is.

CW, Jennifer James, Type A Parent Conference

But what a joy to be away from them knowing what I do matters, that I have something valuable to contribute, and that my community won’t think twice when I tweet about missing my kids or aching for my husband. These are women I can bring my whole self to – my professional self, my girlfriend self, my wife and mother self, and my spiritual self – all of who I am gets to play in the same sand box.

Best Roomates Ever! Evo Conference Credit: Stephanie Porter

Out of that authenticity, partnerships form anchored in business-savvy brilliance. And also … because we fall a little bit in love with each other.

Gratitude to just a few of my new girl-crushes — for a hallway chat, a quiet moment at a loud party, a lingering conversation after a session, sharing tears in a hotel room, a moment of impact — in no particular order…

All Things Fadra, Mooshinindy, Petit-Elefant, Free Anissa, TodoBebe, Parent Hacks, Good n Crazy, Formerly Phread, Art-Slam, Queen Scarlett, Sellabit Mum, By Word of Mouth MusingsRed Neck MommyKidneys and Eyes, Kim Orlandini, Tracey Clark, Xiaolin Mama, Resourceful Mommy, On the Go With Amy

I know I’ve forgotten someone. Or ten. Not to mention girl-crushes from previous equally amazing conferences (Katherine Stone, I’m talking to you!). What a joyous thing to be able to go to work every day with all of you, sharing our hearts, mind and opinions. I’m so glad. And so grateful to be a tiny part of it.

There may or may not have been a flash mob at the Evo ’12 Ignite keynotes. Or a broken table in our hotel room. Enjoy!

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Lu July 19, 2012 at 9:37 pm

Oh, my friend. How I miss you and your amazing spirit.

Chrysula July 20, 2012 at 7:21 am

Lu, I miss your energy and your gorgeous heart — it’s even better in person! xo

Jeannine July 19, 2012 at 10:27 pm

LOVE this post!! And so LOVED meeting you in person! So much love in the sisterhood.

Chrysula July 20, 2012 at 7:22 am

Thank you! I utterly adored meeting you, feel such a wonderful connection and am so amazed by all you’re doing! xo

Jessica July 20, 2012 at 6:08 am

What a perfect post for me to read. After blogging for years I am finally taking myself and my work and my need to get out of the house seriously and heading to my first conference, Blogher. I can’t wait to attend and this post and the connections you share here are exactly why.

Chrysula July 20, 2012 at 7:23 am

Oh I’d love to connect at BlogHer! Please let’s DM and connect!!! Our online lives are wonderful, but IRL is still where the magic happens. There’s just more of it to go around because of these gorgeous connections we’ve made in spaces like this.

tracy@sellabitmum July 20, 2012 at 7:41 am

You are so beautiful in so many ways. I love you and cannot wait to hug again very soon.

Love this “Out of that authenticity, partnerships form anchored in business-savvy brilliance. And also … because we fall a little bit in love with each other.”


Chrysula July 20, 2012 at 9:50 am

Tracy, you are making me miss you more and I cannot WAIT to see you at BlogHer. Loving this chance to get to know and adore you even more! xo

moosh in indy. July 20, 2012 at 8:37 am

You were and are simply lovely. Certainly a highlight of the weekend for me in every way. Especially since you explained the broken table to the hotel.

Chrysula July 20, 2012 at 9:03 am

I need a recording of your impersonation of said explanation!! You’re utterly divine Casey. It was a joy to meet you.

~j. July 21, 2012 at 2:39 am

I am so looking forward to getting to know you better, and I can’t wait to see you in New York!

Chrysula July 23, 2012 at 8:08 am

Jenny, I can’t WAIT! I too am loving getting to know you better. And when I need to get my kids to a happy place, I just pop on your flash mob and all is well with the world! J

Raejean July 22, 2012 at 7:52 am

Evo ’12 was a blast. Thanks for letting me hang out in your room during the black out!

Chrysula July 23, 2012 at 8:09 am

I think the blackout actually was my favorite part!!

Petit Elefant July 23, 2012 at 9:20 pm

It was *DELIGHTFUL* getting to meet you for a brief but meaningful chat in the hallway. I truly adore you and can’t wait to see you again! xo

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