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What Does an Integrated Life Mean, Anyway?

Our souls desire to behave in ways that line up with what we believe and value.  That is called living an integrated life.  When behavior matches values, we are whole.  We live without apology, heads held high.  Not in arrogance, but in quiet authority that we are on the right path. Join me for She […]

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Sweet & Sour

I spent the Christmas/New Year week focused on my family.  It’s a different kind of work than the usual weekly rhythm, but it is still work.* We had a wonderful few days.  Friends and wonderful food and the thrill of all my children engaged and in a magical frame of mind for the most part.  […]

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Alright 2011. Bring it.

January is a funny month.  Like the world is in a giant post party fog, slowly waking up. In Australia and all parts southern, it probably means you’re under water (hopefully at the beach and not in the floods). In the northern hemisphere it’s more likely you’re under piles of slush and snow. Either way […]

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Why Walking The Talk Can Be Harder Than We Plan

To Get From Here: Our family has been trapped in the narrow rigidity of an old-school employer. Under the weight of an obscenely long commute, long hours including weekends, and a structure that regards any kind flexibility as a sign of weakness (precluding our children from spending much time with their father), I chose to […]

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The Admiral, Half Days and Laundry

It’s no secret that I became a bit of an Admiral Mike Mullen groupie after he spoke at the Families and Work Institute’s Work Life Legacy Awards Dinner back in July 2010.  OK, maybe a lot of a groupie.   Then there’s my crush on Ted Childs.  (still can’t do justice to the two hour interview […]

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Focus on Flex? What Does That Mean?

Welcome to my new site, http://www.chrysulawinegar.com.  Please bookmark, subscribe and join in.  In the spirit of flexibility, this platform gives me more freedom, both intellectually and technically, to grow my body of thoughts and actions on: work life issues for everyone causes I care about the future of motherhood. The old blog is fully migrated […]

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Work Life Stories: Broadway Baby (Part 2)

We met Erik Orton earlier in the week, and left his story as he reached crunch time for choosing his next step in the search for integrity in his work life.  Time to introduce Erik’s family, five children, all home-schooled. For Part 1 of Work Life Stories: Broadway Baby, go here. “I needed day job […]

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Work Life Stories: Broadway, Baby (Part 1)

Erik Orton is a playwright, composer and producer by day, and a presentations whiz for a large investment bank by night.  Erik’s story is the journey of an integrated life and what that means to him.  From high school, he was interested in theatre and music, pursuing a Bachelors in Media Music (film scoring, studio […]

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Tear Down That Wall?

In the furor over the NYT Mommy Blogger’s piece over the weekend (which I am not getting into as others have done it better), I noticed a comment (amongst the hundreds of comments across one of the at least 12 follow-ups I’ve read in the past couple of days).  I can’t quote it, because I […]

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Balance, What Balance?!

Why do I persist in using the term “work life balance” when it has so many complex connotations?  I have a very simple answer.  Because it’s the lingua franca of the academic research and literature, of corporate programs, of legislation and of every day people.  There are those I respect who argue convincingly for alternative […]

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